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Thursday, February 21, 2013

We should kiss, hug, and tell our kids that we LOVE them each and everyday....

We should kiss, hug, and tell our kids that we LOVE them everyday.....

I'll admit, that some days that I only say "I love You" in the morning before the bus comes, and at night when I'm tucking them in......and that's just the little ones......

The older ones are a different story......it's all 'EWW GROSS MOM, NOT IN FRONT OF MY FRIENDS" geesh.....sorry..

Or I will end a phone conversation with the older kids and I'll say "I LOVE YOU"...and they are all "uh-huh"......

But I think after what we learned yesterday, my crazy-hubby and I, just might tell them every stinkin' moment that they are with us. Every time we get a chance, we are gonna smother them with love.

We learned yesterday, that a good friend of ours (I'll call him C.W.) little boy went to be with Jesus.....
His whole family, besides his dad, was in a very bad car crash. I wont put the gory details in, but just imagine what the worst wreck you have ever seen and insert 3 little kids and a mama in it........

I'll give you a second to re-think that last sentence.

The other kids had minor injures and was treated and released.

But not this precious little boy...
It happened a few months ago, and the little boy was flown to Greenville, who has an awesome trauma ward.

He was alive, but was paralyzed from the neck down.

He was in and out of a coma.........

sometimes the little angel would open his eyes and look, but not really see.........

We can't even imagine the pain that this family is going through............If the pain that my husband and I feel is only a fraction of what they feel....then we don't know how we could go on.......

It's made us rethink a lot of things like:
Did I tell them I love them when I woke them up this morning?
Did I kiss them and tell them I loved them when they were eating their breakfast, or was I barking orders because the bus was gonna be there in 10 minutes, and for Pete's sake, nobody had put on shoes or even had backpack ready.....?
Did I tell them I love them and ask about their day at school when I picked them up from the bus, or did I just bark at them to sit down and buckle up......?

How about those teenagers? I wrote in an earlier post that one of my sons good friend and Girl-Child's boyfriend and 2 others flipped a SUV over 3 times and all were ejected from the car.....They all survived....

But what about my teenagers? Who don't won't to be told you love them/miss them.....or that you wanna spend time with them without their stupid cell phones going off every 2 seconds.....I mean really, who wants to know that you will BRB to take a potty break.......

How do I tell the teenagers that We love them so very, very, much and want so much for them to succeed in life, when they look at you like you are a helicopter mom.....flying all up in their business?

I know that our friend C.W. wishes that he could have these same questions about his precious baby boy....but he can't........He will NEVER get the chance to show him how to shoot a BB gun, or how to hunt deer, or how to drive a stick shift.........And we just don't know what we would do.........

I'd probably lay in the bed for weeks, not moving, not wanting anything but my baby back.

But the "silver lining" to all this grief, Is that he got to see the Face of God before we did. Now he can run and jump and play all day in Heaven......

His memorial will be Saturday........and until then our hearts will remain heavy.........
Please pray for his family.....

With a broken heart, not knowing what to say or how to react,

J


Monday, February 18, 2013

This is NOT what I wished for!!!

Ok so I wished for a cleaning faerie to come to my house while we slept and clean the house......But that B@#&H didn't show up......

Who showed up instead? The dreaded SOCK MONSTER......
I mean how can I put 2 socks in the washer and dryer, but one of them are missing? If it is indeed the SOCK MONSTER, i would gladly give you some socks that are too little for the kids, or ones that have holes in them......But alas, that greedy little monster wants all the good socks.......
I have seriously thought about setting in a chair in my laundry room with a tennis racket waiting for the little monster to come out so I could whack him.........

Oh, but lets not stop there......I really want for find out who theses people are that kive in my house: NOT ME, I DIDN'T DO IT, AND THE CLASSIC; IT WASN'T ME.....* now admit, you just said that last song while singing it in your best SHAGGY voice*........you know the song, It wasn't me.......LOL

Well, I'm not for sure if I have already said on here that my washing machine caught on fire.....first time 3 fire trucks came and we had to clear the house out of the smoke.......then the 2nd time( in 2 weeks non the less) GirlChild saw the smoke first, and we were able to get it contained again......So we called up the service people and they came out, but had to order parts to get it fixed.......we got the parts in in 2 days but had to wait until the service repair guy could fit us in to put the parts in.......Finally he came after 6 days and fixed it, but also said that if this one failed that they will replace it.........
They didn't offer to pay for the clothes that were ruined......
Or having to use our neighbors machine just to have clean towels and underwear........

On another note, It snowed here and Jacksonville and we (hubby, me, Girl child, her friend and her boyfriend) had to go to All County Honor Chorus and drive in the stuff........
It amazes me. that we WILL stay for Hurricanes up to a cat 3, but let there even be mention about snow, and you'd think the zombie Apocalypse has came and we were the only ones that didn't know about it....
Now my pantry was relatively full, but we still needed cereal and milk, and of course my beverage of choice:
Coke.......
And Walmart was a mad house!!!!!It was like trying to go shopping on Black Friday......
We got out of there as quick as we could........

Well that's it for now, I will post some of the clips from my daughters concert.....

This has been a boring post, I know......
J


Tuesday, February 12, 2013

HOW DO I LET GO?

Letting go is a hard thing to do....a really hard thing to do.......

You may wonder what in the world I'm taking about, so here goes:

                                        Man-Child pictured here will be 18 in just 4 short  months!


And he is my baby......not in the literal sense because after him I went on to have 4 more babies.

But this Man-Child  MADE ME A MOTHER,  and that's a bond that I hope never breaks.

But I can see him pulling away from me (not in a disrespectful way).......just that he doesn't need me anymore.

And It breaks my heart. For birth to 18 months he WAS MY ONLY BABY......And we were inseparable.

Then Girl-child was born, and although she changed the dynamics of the house, for the most part it stayed the same.

Just last weekend, his friend (who shall remain nameless) asked us if him and Man-Child could go get his mom some groceries....We said "sure why not". I mean the friend is 19, and Dylan is 17 so what harm could that be.......They made it home safe.....

But just a few days later, that same "friend" and some of his "friends" AND Girl-Child's Boyfriend went muddin'. For y'all not from the south, that's where you take a crap truck and go muddin' and slipping and sliding, and you come out looking like you've been attacked by mud.....and the mud won....
Anyway, back to the story: The version I hear is that they were muddin somewhere they shouldn't have been and THEY ROLLED THE TRUCK OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND EVERY LAST ONE OF THEM WAS NOT SEAT BELTED IN....AND SOME OF THEM GOT EJECTED FROM THE CAR........
None of them was seriously injured, just a broke wrist, cracked ribs, lots of bruises.....and oh yeah, 2 of them went to Jail. The one driving it, and the one who was the owner of the truck.
I know God intervenes when necessary because it just so happened that Man-Child was grounded that weekend and couldn't go!!!!!! Or else he would have been in the truck too........
I know these boys and they are not bad kids, they are just teenagers making stupid mistakes.....I was their age just a few short  years ago. And we did some crazy stuff, but to me this takes the cake.............
All of them got OSS, (out of school suspension).

And I know that Dylan wasn't with him and even if he would he would call me and his dad for help. He has done it before. It was a "frenemy" who was trying to hot wire a bulldozer from a construction site. So Dylan flags a lady down, and she is kind enough to let her use her phone. We have always told him that if he does something bad, if he tells us right away, there will be no questions asked until the morning when we've all had time to calm down.

But now since this happened it has scared  me to death. How am I supposed to know if I've taught him the right skills to go on in his life.

HOW DO I LET GO, AFTER SEEING WHAT NORMAL TEENAGERS DO ON A NIGHT THAT THEY GOT BORED?
* just want to say again that these are not bad boys, they rarely get in trouble at school, and behave as politely as a teenage boy can muster*

HOW DO I LET GO KNOWING THAT HE HAS THE RIGHT TO QUIT SCHOOL, MOVE OUT???

His Dad and I think that we have taught him well enough to do OK on his own...but 'm not ready to let go.

I probably need to say that Man-child has no desire to move out just yet, he has one more year of high school and he plays foot ball there. So I think I might have some time to try to convince myself that he will be OK........

NOT KNOWING HOW TO LET GO,
J

P.S.
Girl-Child's boyfriend was just along for the ride, and another buddy ran for help........

Sunday, February 10, 2013

More of some of the things you've missed while I've been busy

Let's take a look at what else you missed around this crazy house:

ManChild wearing his Championship shirt and metal......so proud of him and all the SW stallions!!!







Girl-Child likes to call this the Charlie Brown Christmas Tree.......seriously its not that bad... :)



The next couple of pics are from Cookies and Milk night at the little ones school. They got to meet Santa.










And there you have it folks......The emmbarresment factor when they get a girl friend!! LOL

Black-mailingly yours,
J

I know that it has been awhile, so here are some updates on what has been going on in my neck of the woods

I really should write more often. Even if no one sees it, or makes a comment about it, it helps me get rid of some stress. Why do I have stress? Um....well 6 boys and 1 girl and 1 Crazy-hubby would be enough to drive even the most sane person crazy......
Anyway, enough of the excuses...so here are some pictures:

SouthWest High School made it all the way to NC IAA state Championship against Swain County.
And we kicked butts!! Final score was 43 to 34. I am not for sure who was more excited: his daddy and me, or ManChild.....He gets his ring soon. He is number 78, and sorry if there's not a lot of pics of him, although he played the whole game, I tend to focus on him and not on my camera......













Stallion Forever,
Jamie